You’re in the heat of the semester, midterms are approaching, and three of the biggest holidays of the year are coming in hot. Do you visit with family or stay home and recover in solitude? What about that art challenge everyone’s doing? Or maybe this is the year you finally make plans for Halloween like the social human being that your schedule says you are.
Each year, questions like these seem to come out of the woodwork simply to make life harder. However, the one that keeps me up at night is probably the vaguest of all. Do I have time?
This became a real issue for me this past weekend. It began with a text on Wednesday, and a pretty unassuming one at that. On any other occasion, I love to receive texts from home. With a family like mine, a text or phone call comes maybe once every few months. Unfortunately, this text put an end to my day off before it even began.
Are you available this weekend?
That’s how I ended up spending a weekend working in a stifling and cluttered back room, helping my parents move their business. This was an event that a more mature individual might consider “character building,” but after three days of hard labor with my family, I can only describe it as hilarious, frustrating, and exhausting. I felt like I had strolled into some 1980’s buddy-film where all the kids go through some cliché experience that alters their perception on life.
Let there be no illusions. The work was gross and strenuous, and staying in a crowded building with three teenagers and two would-be adults is never conducive to a healthy family-dynamic. However, over the course of three days, I revisited the location of a significant chapter of my life, and shut it down alongside the same people I began it with. If that isn’t closure, I don’t know what is.
I’m still just as busy as I was, but I was able to make the most of my seasonal stress and turn it into an amazing experience. Autumn is a season of change, and more people need to take advantage of that. Whether it’s writing about the changing of the leaves or tackling some annual home improvement, this season has so much potential!
Now, I’m not implying that you need to actively search for some new activity to pencil into your schedule. I hate reading through an inspiring article only for the grand takeaway to be “do it” and “if you don’t have time, make time.” In fact, if I manage to clear my schedule for an afternoon, I’m more likely to catch up on sleep than anything else, and I will never regret that. Instead, take a step back and look at what you’re already doing. Why is it important to you? What is the best you can make out of this moment? How do you want to look back on this moment?
It’s up to you.